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Starting university can be an exciting but nerve-wracking experience, especially when it comes to making friends. The good news? Everyone’s in the same boat!

Whether you're introverted or outgoing, building lasting friendships at university is absolutely achievable.

Here’s how to make and keep great friends during your university journey.

Put Yourself Out There

University is packed with opportunities to meet people, but you’ll need to step out of your comfort zone. Attend Welcome events, join clubs, participate in societies, or attend a ResX event. These settings are designed to bring like-minded people together. You don’t have to be the loudest or most extroverted person in the room—just showing up and being open to conversation is enough.

Pro tip: Start with a simple question. “Hey, have you been to this event before?” or “What are you studying?” can spark meaningful conversations.

Say Yes to Invitations

Even if you’re feeling a bit tired or unsure, try to accept social invitations when you can. A casual coffee meet-up or group study session might be the foundation for a deeper friendship. Plus, these moments often lead to introductions to other people.

But remember: It’s okay to set boundaries. You don’t have to say yes to everything—just enough to keep your social doors open.

Make the Most of Shared Spaces

Your hall, lectures, or campus coffee shop is full of potential friends. Striking up a casual conversation with someone nearby can lead to a lasting connection. Shared spaces also naturally foster repeated interactions, making it easier to build rapport over time.

Example: Notice someone wearing a band shirt you love? Compliment them and start a chat about music!

Be a Good Listener

Friendships grow stronger when you show genuine interest in others. Listen actively during conversations—nod, ask follow-up questions, and show empathy. People are naturally drawn to those who make them feel heard and valued.

Build Friendships Gradually

Good friendships take time. Don’t pressure yourself to become best friends with someone overnight. Start with small talk, then gradually share more about yourself as trust builds. Consistent effort—like sending a quick message or inviting someone for coffee—helps deepen connections.

Stay Open-Minded

University is a melting pot of cultures, beliefs, and personalities. Be open to forming friendships with people from different backgrounds and viewpoints. You’ll gain new perspectives, and diversity often makes friendships more enriching.

Balance Old and New Friendships

It’s wonderful to keep in touch with old friends while making new ones. However, avoid comparing your new friendships to old ones—they’re unique and will grow differently. Stay connected with your old friends through calls and texts, but give your new relationships the time they need to flourish.

Keep the Friendship Alive

Once you’ve made friends, maintaining the relationship is key. Regularly check in with your friends, invite them to hang out, or even just send them something funny that reminds you of them. Effort is a two-way street, and small gestures can go a long way.

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Making friends at university might feel daunting at first, but remember that everyone is looking for a connection, just like you. Be patient with yourself, take initiative, and don’t be afraid of a few awkward moments—they’re part of the process. By putting yourself out there and showing genuine interest in others, you’ll create lasting friendships that will enrich your university experience and beyond.

If you still feel like you're not settling into university life, you can speak confidentially to one of our team at ResX Wellbeing, who can give you support and advice throughout the year. You can contact us at resx@nottingham.ac.uk or call 0115 748 7600

Good luck, and don’t forget to have fun along the way! 🎓✨